Little White Lies

Honesty is the best policy:  platitude or truism? How many times are we faced with the decision to be honest or to tell a “little white lie?” No one else may know or find out; however, you know and how do you feel about yourself?

There are many ways to tell the truth without the discomfort that most people avoid. It just takes a little effort to escape the black/white way of thinking.

The Jumping Thoughts

Did you know that energy, thoughts, ideas and feelings can jump from one person to another?  Sounds strange I know, but recent research indicates that this is a bigger problem than you can imagine.  The question is, are you transferring your thoughts to them, or are they transferring theirs to you? This is an important distinction for all leaders…

Straight Line

Most people think that the fastest way to get between two points is a straight line… and yes, they are correct when in a one dimensional reality. This is similar to looking at the horizon and saying that the world is flat.

We live in a multidimensional world and often the most creative solution shows that the fastest way to get from one point to the other is NOT always a straight line!

Are You Present?

Anytime you find yourself making a few little mistakes, experiencing near misses, and forgetting things, take a moment and ask yourself if you are “present, here now?”  Or, is there a part of yourself (your attention and/or awareness) that is stuck on something in the past or on an unsolved problem?

Unsolved problems can cause us to be “not present.”

Just identifying what is going on can help us become more present and the mistakes and near misses will reduce.

Obviously, you are going to have to solve the problem to remain present in the long term.

The Good Old Days

Many times people reminisce about the “good old days” when things were supposedly better than they are now. The truth is that things have never been better than they are now.  There are less wars, people are living longer, health care for most people is better than ever, living standards have risen, incomes have risen and housing sizes have increased.

Yes, some things have gotten worse – like the environment.

Yes, there are still many problems to overcome… especially in less-developed countries where many millions of children go to bed hungry and die early of preventable illnesses.

We are clearly living in a world of “haves and have nots” and for those of us who care enough to do something about it… there is plenty to do!

Someday Island

Many people live on an island called “Someday Isle.” It goes like this: “Someday I’ll do this, someday I’ll do that…”

Today could be your last day alive.  Your last thought could be: “Look at all the love I have shared and all the things I have dreamed of and have done.”  Or, you will regret the things you have not done and people you have not expressed your love to.

You have nothing to lose by living each day as if it were your last… and whatever you dream of doing – do it now.  After all, this is the only way to escape “Someday Isle.”

The Shadow

We all have a shadow self. Many of us who have worked on ourselves for a long time or who have very religious backgrounds often find it difficult to see the shadow part of ourselves.  This part is less than honest, less then forthcoming, has less then pure intentions, etc.

However, the key to becoming a better person is to look at both sides which include all our good qualities and their opposites.

Personal Power

If your Personal Power is limited – then you have little chance of getting what you want. On the other hand, if you have a lot of Personal Power – then you have the ability, skill and capacity to do what you want and to influence other people’s thoughts and actions.

Are you willing to spend one more day not getting what you want?

This is the key question because if you want things to change, then you have to change. The first place to begin is to stop putting up with things the way they are…

Denial of Feelings Can Lead to Irrational Actions

Many people who deny their feelings in order to make rational decisions are inadvertently making emotional decisions.

If you ignore, suppress or deny the emotional aspect – you will end up being totally influenced by the emotion.  All the while, you’re thinking you are using reason and being totally rational!

The best decisions are made after taking into account how something feels – then making an optimum decision that includes logic, reason and emotion.

Five Reasons Why People Procrastinate

There are five primary reasons why people procrastinate:

1)  Too much or too little information
2)  Lack of emotional energy
3)  Hoping things will change on their own
4)  Afraid of making a mistake
5)  Attached to current results

It is a mistake to overlook the fact that no decision is a decision.

The People You Meet

Each day we meet many people for the first and last time. We will never see them again – and they will never see us again, either. The larger the city or country we live in, the more this happens. The smaller the place we live in, the more likelihood we have of meeting again. However, regardless of where we live – there is one person you have to live with everyday… and that is yourself. If you do something that isn’t 100% – the people you meet may not know. You will know – and can’t forget. Make yourself proud.

If Humans Can Crash a Spacecraft into a Comet Traveling at Over 69,000 miles per hour

If we can crash a spacecraft into a comet – then you can design and live your ideal life. On the 4th of July 2005, 130 million KM from earth, a NASA spacecraft launched a 372 KG copper projectile that crashed into the surface of the Tempel Comet. If we can make this happen then you can make your life work in the way you want… Goldzone can help you!

Communication

As you communicate more, your Lifeforce increases. Communication is the method through which Lifeforce is channeled and directed in a particular direction for a particular purpose.

Self-expression is about our ability to express ourselves through our clothing, personal grooming, language, tone of voice, laughter, playfulness, articulation, music, dance, art, exercise, etc. Being able to express how we feel is central to our ability to communicate and relate to other people.

As a leader, if we can’t express how we feel, then we can’t move people to action (without threats or demands).

Personal Power is the ability to express and move people – without authority or force.

What Made the Difference?

Three children grew up in the same household, one year apart. They had the same education, the same opportunities, the same upbringing, the same parents, the same genes – and yet, by the age of 40 – each had done very different things with their lives.

What made the difference? The answer to this question is the answer as to why some people are more successful in life than others… It has to do with our response to what happens to us. One response is to feel like a victim at the effect of everything – and take everything personally. A second response is to go into denial, forget and pretend that nothing happened. The third and most powerful response is to see the truth of what happened, and take personal responsibility to change what can be changed.

Acknowledgment

How many times do you tell people around you (workers, employees, family, etc.) what they have done wrong or the mistakes they have made? Many times we spend more time making corrections and pointing out what is wrong than we do pointing out what is right and acknowledging a job well done.

Think back to when you were a child… How many times did you hear “yes” for every “no”? Most people are craving for acknowledgement and encouragement. As a leader, your job is to support people to get things right – focusing on what is right and acknowledging a job well done will give you many times more results that pointing out what is wrong.

Your Ideal Life

Singapore 2009: About six years ago, we signed a one year lease on a Villa on the cliff in Bali. We spent our days watching the whales, dolphins, fisherman, and the sun rise and set. We sat under a coconut palm and our favorite cashew nut tree. Our maid and gardener took care of everything around the Villa.

That period is one our most memorable because we took the time to unwind from the busy work-a-day world to ponder the future, reflect on who we really were, and what we wanted to do with our lives. The Goldzone vision is the result… What do you want to dream, create and manifest?

Orderliness in the Office

The cleanliness and organization of your office reflects how well the business is managed. If you have piles of paper on the floor, boxes stacked everywhere, piles of files on your desk and in a tray that is bulging… then consider what would happen if you cleaned up and got organized? The results may surprise you!

The level of organization and cleanliness reflects the level of drama and chaos present in the operation. So, does the drama create the disorganization – or does the disorganization create the drama?

How to Get People to Say YES

If you don’t like people saying “No” to you – then don’t ask questions that require a NO answer. The secret is to only ask questions that people can say YES to. This requires a different mindset, and language than most people are familiar with.

If you see only black and white, consider what would happen if you could see many more alternatives (shades of grey) and possible ways of saying something than you use right now. This requires creative thinking…