How to Feel More Beautiful

What would happen to your life if you surrounded
yourself with all things beautiful?

What does it mean to be beautiful? Beauty is something that we all recognize instinctively. Even three month old babies smile longer at faces that appear more attractive.

Most of us would agree that beauty is pleasing to the senses and to be beautiful means to possess qualities that give great pleasure to see, hear, touch, feel or to think about. In other words these qualities delight our senses.

So seductive are the charms of beauty that we spend huge amounts of money with reckless abandon at the slightest hope of looking younger, fresher, more attractive. This has spawned a huge industry that is often criticized as shallow, self-indulgent and materialistic. Increased mental health issues are blamed on massive advertising spending that encourages obsession with looks, youth and attractiveness. Most religions promote a more austere, conservative outlook more focused on the life after death than the pursuit of beauty, seduction and aesthetic.

Nature has engineered us this way. We are vulnerable to its charms and this isn’t going to change anytime soon. The global beauty industry is forecast to grow to $217 Billion by 2017 and this doesn’t include the personal care, fitness, aesthetic surgery or fashion industries. This massive industry is driven by people’s desire to look and feel good combined with rising incomes, aging populations and changing lifestyles.

Consider this: Americans spend more per year on beauty than they do on education. In other words to most people, looking good is more important than knowledge and social skills. Improving one’s capability is considered slow when compared to the quick fix possible in the cosmetic looks department.

Are we overlooking the positive benefits of investing in beauty? Of looking our best? Of surrounding ourselves with more beauty? Perhaps if we avoid the pitfalls of the extreme ends of the spectrum and find a middle road we can arrive at an optimal balance that is just right.

This would enable us to benefit from nature’s engineered payoffs including:

• Increased social standing
• Increased ability to earn more money
• Help us appear more confident
• Help us appear more intelligent
• Help us succeed more at work
• Increased ability to attract a beautiful or wealthy partner
• Increased perception that one is better in bed
• Communicates health, vitality and fertility
• Increased attention
• Increased mood level
• Feeling happier, healthier, younger and more vital
• Increased creativity
• Feeling more self-expressed and real

Perhaps love should be added to the list… With all the benefits of beauty, is it any wonder why people lust after it so much? Beauty provides us with influence over our own pleasure senses as well as those of other people. This is pure competitive advantage.

In other words beauty = influence and influence = power.

Given the stimulating effects of beauty, why then do so many people settle for functional, plain and boring? Perhaps they don’t feel worthy or a religious authority encouraged austerity.

Nature is abundant with beauty.

Consider other areas of beauty; nature, architecture, furniture, decor, cars, roads, streets, cities, buildings, offices, technology, work, food, cuisine, service, art, poetry, sculpture, photography, film, performing arts, etc.

We are surrounded by expressions of beauty and yet so many aspects of our lives are functional, mundane, ordinary. We think in boxes, we live in a box, sleep on a box, watch tv on a box, eat out of a box, drive to work in a box, work in a box building, in a box office, at a box desk, on a box computer, talking on a box phone.

Most of these functional boxes contain no passion. No juice. No inspiration. No joy. No pleasure inducing qualities to delight our senses.

What would happen to your life if you raised the bar on yourself? If you expected more than a functional box, more than a functional existence? What would happen to your life if you surrounded yourself with all things beautiful?

Whatever you appreciate rises in value!

In order to do that requires a new appreciation for the value of beauty. We have to admit to ourselves that beauty is important. What this will do is provide an updraft effect that spirals up and up leading to more and more beauty and less and less ugly. This will improve your results in life and will have you feeling more beautiful.

Ten tips to feeling more beautiful:

1. Make beauty important, include your personal appearance and your work, living environment, working environment, self-expression, lifestyle, etc.
2. Surround yourself with more and more beauty. Look for areas to add more beauty to, or to enhance.
3. Eliminate as many ugly elements as you can including music, smells, clothes, furniture, conversations, language, environments, cars, traffic, long lines, etc. The most important elements to eliminate are ugly thoughts and feelings.
4. Invest more in quality craftsmanship, products and services. These tend to be more beautiful and have that something, something. You will feel more beautiful using them.
5. Eliminate cheap and tacky products and services. This requires a shift from price shopping to value shopping. Usually the lowest price isn’t the best value when you consider a wider view. Cheap and tacky is usually ugly.
6. Surround yourself with authentic people who value beauty and aesthetic and who value beautiful manners and conduct! Most important ensure that they encourage and acknowledge the beauty inside of you.
7. Eliminate ugly language from your vocabulary and ugly behavior from your repertoire of actions. You will feel more beautiful.
8. Transform ugly thoughts, feelings and negativity into more positive expectation, uplifting feelings and look for the good purpose in unpleasant situations. Everything can be transformed into a useful experience.
9. Commit to always look and feel your best, even when no one is looking. Do it for yourself. Be authentic. Fake is always ugly.
10. Immerse yourself in uplifting experiences, filled with beauty. Explore environments that are uncomfortable and a little confronting. This is how we grow and expand our sense of beauty.

Authenticity is the most beautiful of all. When we are authentic we are attractive. We are real. The inside is reflected on the outside and the outside is reflected on the inside.

If we are inauthentic, then whatever we attract from that place will bring with it fear of loss. We will be afraid that they will discover “who we really are” and will leave. So we cover up and become more fake. This is no way to live!

Be real. Be authentic. Be FREE!

Good luck and be beautiful!
XOXO

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Dealing with Unwanted Emotions/Feelings

Dealing with unwanted feelings can be a very tricky thing.  It can often lead to upsets and a lot of unhappiness in relationships between people.

The purpose of this article is to provide some understanding of feelings, their purpose in our lives, and to provide a guideline for expressing one’s feelings in an appropriate manner.

We are all familiar with people who are supposedly calm, nothing bothers them, and then one day something goes wrong and they explode in a fit of rage. Or the relationship where everything was going along nicely and all of a sudden, out of the blue, one partner announces that they are leaving.

Our feelings impact every area of our lives, and are often the hidden drivers of our behaviors, attitudes and beliefs. When we feel things we would rather not feel, most of us will attempt to suppress the feeling, rather than look for the original cause or source of the feeling. Some of the things people do to suppress feelings are:

1.    Go shopping
2.    Eat, even if not hungry
3.    Drink alcohol
4.    Smoke cigarettes or cigars
5.    Take illegal drugs
6.    Take legal prescription drugs
7.    Engage in extreme sports
8.    Engage in sexual activity
9.    Engage in gossip
10.    Work harder
11.   Engage in a fight, or abuse others

You will notice from the above list, that these activities, when taken to the extreme, are detrimental to one’s health and are often destructive to other people also.

So why is it that so little is known about feelings?  Why aren’t emotions discussed in school? And why are so few people looking to the cause of their feelings rather than being at the effect of them?

The primary reason for this lack of awareness and education on this subject is because up until recent times, very little was really known about our emotional natures – and it is also a highly explosive and controversial subject.

The impact of modern life and industrialization has created a society of people who do not listen to nor value their emotional selves. This causes people to engage in destructive relationships, unfulfilling careers, and to live in places that are an affront to the senses.

So what would happen if people learned about feelings, and their impact on life? What would happen if people listened to their intuition and their emotional natures more and included this input into their decision-making? What would happen if people learned safe ways to express their feelings – rather than suppress them?

We would have happier, more fulfilled, more balanced, more loving societies.

What are emotions anyway?

Emotion is the connecting energy between our mental planning and conceptualization and our physical action.

Consider the below model:

If we have one of the above elements missing or suppressed, we will not realize our full potential as a human being.

If we are spiritually disconnected, or we have no belief in, or experience of, a higher power that is greater than ourselves, we are then only operating on the mental, emotional and physical planes.

If we are mentally slow, or underdeveloped, then we are not able to plan or to solve problems of life and living.

If we are spiritually connected, mentally developed and physically oriented, but have the emotional plane blocked or suppressed, we will not have the energy to create the results we want, nor will we be able to move others to action or to connect deeply with people in relationships.

There are many people who have no spiritual source, are very mentally developed (sometimes to the genius level) are totally suppressed emotionally, but they are physically oriented. These people are able to connect with us physically and mentally, however they are unable to feel real empathy or to connect on a spiritual level.

With one or more of the planes suppressed or underdeveloped, we will not realize our full potential and we will not be fulfilled with our lives – regardless of the success or recognition that we achieve.

So you can see, that in order to be a fully realized, self actualized human being, one must be developed on all four planes: spiritual, mental, emotional and physical.

Emotions are misunderstood

In many societies around the world, being under control, calm and expressionless under pressure are accepted and valued as “strong,” while being expressive and alive with emotions is considered “weak.” This is often referred to as the person being “emotional.”

This judgment comes from labeling emotions as good and bad.  Good emotions are accepted and bad emotions are unacceptable. We learn from our parents and the people who care about us which emotions are bad and not to be expressed, and which emotions are good and should be expressed often.

The problem is that different families have different assessments of good and bad.

For example, in one family it may be considered good to express joy, and bad to express anger. In another family it may be the exact opposite. What happens when two people from these families get together and form a relationship? This will cause constant fighting and unhappiness because what is considered good behavior by one person, will be considered bad by the other.

In order to be a whole and complete person, we must be able to experience and express all of the emotions available to mankind. This is a tall order for many people. The tendency is to avoid some feelings and move towards others which causes us to be at the effect of our emotions. They have us, we don’t have them.

There are no good or bad emotions

Letting go of the labels of good and bad in terms of emotions will liberate us from being at effect of our own and other people’s emotions. Once we understand that every emotion is a necessary part of life and has its place, we can then free ourselves from avoidance and embrace the appropriate emotion for the appropriate situation.

For example, when a tiger is stalking us, it is appropriate to feel caution and fear. It is inappropriate for us to feel enthusiasm or serenity… this will have us being eaten! It is also not appropriate for us to feel and express anger when another person says, “I love you.”

There are hundreds of different emotions or feelings

There are literally hundreds of different emotions that are broken down into specific feelings, and then further categorized into seven primary zones. Each zone has a corresponding color that loosely matches the chakras as well as the stages of childhood development.

You will notice from the above model, that our available energy is low at the bottom of the scale and increases as we go up the scale.

Each category or zone includes many other feelings on a scale of intensity. For example, in the fear zone (Orangezone), the top of fear is uncertainty, nervous and worry, and the bottom is blind terror. So you can see that mild fear is a little uncomfortable and extreme fear is very uncomfortable.

This is the same with all the zones. The anger zone begins with boredom at the top, rage at the bottom, and many different flavors of anger in between.

What happens when an emotion is blocked

What happens to a person who comes from a family where anger is judged as a “bad” emotion, and it is not acceptable to feel, let alone express it? What this does is limit the ability of the person to feel, experience and express emotions that are higher on the scale than anger. In other words, anger blocks the person’s free flow of emotional energy.

This block causes a major limitation on the person’s life and creates all kinds of problems at work and in relationships. Any time someone expresses anger around this person, they will want to run away or they will become angry themselves. In other words, they either avoid or challenge.

Fragmentation Leads to Stress

Futurists commonly predict that we are moving away from separate personal and professional lives towards a life where our personal and professional lives are fully integrated.

For many of us, our lives have developed as fragmented sections or compartments. We are one way at work, and altogether different in our personal life. This leads to a split personality: the work persona and the home persona and never the twain shall meet. Our feelings get left at home, and the very fabric of what makes us human gets left out of the work place.

How do you integrate yourself as a whole person into your career, profession or business? Most success models are based on how much money you have, however, this is a very limited view of life. True success includes money, health, relationship, career, self-expression and spirituality.

Traditionally, our personal lives are viewed as separate and distinct from our professional lives. And yet, the state of our personal life has a dramatic impact on our productivity, stress and performance.  The basic rule applies: less fragmentation = less stress.

What can you do to integrate more of yourself in all areas – professional and personal?

Health

Good health is like the weather, most people are so busy rushing here and there – that they don’t stop to notice how they are feeling until it is raining cats and dogs or freezing cold!

Don’t wait until you get sick to do something about your health…

The Impact Our Genes Have on Our Health

Our predisposition to certain types of disease has been handed down to us by our ancestors via our genes. If your family has a high incidence of heart disease – then you have a higher chance of getting heart disease than if your family has a low incidence of heart disease. Knowing your family health history is critical to empower you to take preventative actions before you become another family statistic.